What’s the cost? 

It’s like every year the price of everything just keeps going up. Food, housing, gas, Life in general. This spring it’s been the same old thing work a few years either love it or hate it. And back on the hunt for another. I AM TIRED!

I get laid off and in the same week I finished up I found out I was pregnant. Yeah I know after all that baby fever my husband had from my last post totally caught up with me. I was scared! Really scared. And to top it all off I was not just unemployed but so was my husband.            (3weeks pregnant) 

Things were all going good and BAM! just like that we down at square one all over again. My husband is a freelance graphic / web designer so he is in and out of work a lot. With the both of us out of work and now having to look for work and prepared for a child was a lot of stress, and to top it off we were in the planning stages of trying to relocate out of state. 

My husband lands this really awesome contract job and we could not have been more then happy. It was just long enough for us to completely our action plan and top off our savings for moving. A week and a half on the job and the company decided to go a different direction and cut his contract. Here we go again. (6&7 weeks pregnant) 

I was in my 8th week going in to my 9th when we found out that that his company was letting him go. We had just told our parents that we are expecting on Mother’s Day weekend. I never been so overwhelmed in my life. The pregnancy, the attention and questions from our families, concerned whether we told them to early or not. My first doctor visits. The mister losing his job. And trying to keep things altogether was tearing me apart. 

9 weeks and four days I had a miscarriage. This took a big toll on my body which is still recovering. But my husband it really hit him hard I think he blames himself at times. Well me on the other hand felt some sort of relief, although I realized now that I do want to have a child when the time is right we will. 

All this to say that life has its ups and downs and some things come at a higher cost then others, and as long as you know that God knows what is best for your life that he will provide you with all you need in due time. 

I know that my sanity, my relationship with my husband and my life is priceless and all else we’ll see again.  

Life is short and now I must truly follow my dreams, I have a lot to do guys wish me luck. 

   
               XOXO, 

LOVE ORANGE55

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MY HUSBAND GOT BABY FEVER !!!!

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OMG! so for the past few months it been when our baby this and when or baby that, and when you pregnant I going to do this and we going to need that. I have to admit its pretty exciting to see him all in baby mood. only because he has this preconceived notion that it’s the women that gets all mushy over having kids and wanting to start a family. Oh, how he must feel right now, especially since I get a big kick of rubbing it in his face. (Don’t Judge our marriage)

So recently we been having some “unexpected baby burps” not going to get all into the details (our parents read my blog from time to time, no need to get them all excited.)

For a long time I have been having theses up and down reservations about having a child. I am just really scared of the whole birthing process mostly. If I could skip all that but only experience the carrying and not the birthing I know crazy right! I even had to lol for even thinking that.

I know but for real this baby thing got me on some kind of emotional rollercoaster, I am always so up and down about what is the best time to have a baby. I not getting any younger, and I feel like I should at least be trying to conceive.  ( which I am trying, but not enough)  I hate that I get the feeling that just because everyone else around me are having kids that I should be to, come on I know that’s just society playing with my head. Uhhhh! If only thing start looking up for us. Two people trying to each start their own business to just add a child to that mix will just be unfair, Right?

As of now the child safe lock is off and we will let nature run its course, if it happens sooner or later we will be happy either way.

XOXO  Love Orange

 

I came across this article at {http://www.onewed.com/workbook/article/can-i-afford-a-wedding-planner} it is right on, I had to share. I hope you all enjoy it as much as I did. 

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Can I Afford a Wedding Planner?
Can you afford to hire a planner for your wedding? In our opinion, you can’t afford NOT to hire one; it’s simply a matter of how much help you want from them, and when during the planning process you decide to secure their services.

At minimum, you’ll want someone there for the day to help orchestrate and coordinate the décor, greet and direct vendors, circle up the family and bridal party before the ceremony, pictures and the toasts, to make sure guests know when to be where, and most importantly, to help clean up at the end of the night. We’ve known many brides and grooms who have decided to forgo this expense, and almost every single one of them say that’s one of the things they definitely would have done differently if they could. DIY brides will often try to take care of this stuff on their own, or will ask family and friends to pitch in. If you can afford a profession who does this regularly it’s always best, but if your budget is too tight find a thrifty alternative! Find a local college girl who wants to be a wedding planner when she grows up (you’d be surprised how many of them are out there). Inquire with your friends, family and coworkers if they know of someone who could fit the bill and be willing to do it for you. Just remember that professionals can charge upwards towards $1000 for this service; if you aren’t hiring a professional, you shouldn’t pay professional prices, but a $100 gift card to Target for a day’s worth of work isn’t really enough unless you’re budget is really strapped.

If you’re on the other end of the spectrum, a wedding planner can be a fantastic resource for you! They can help secure some of the most talented and reputable vendors, and will also be knowledgeable on the latest trends and styles of the season. Not to mention all of the time they save and stress they alleviate for you! Many brides fear that a planner will steal the show and try to take over. On one hand, remember that the reason you’re hiring them is so they CAN run the show! But you want to make sure he or she won’t step on your toes too much, and will only step in when you really want them to. If you’re the kind of bride that likes to hold the reins and long as possible, then meet with your potential planner once or twice before signing a contract, and even spring for a consultation meeting. If they’re insistent that you just HAVE to hire such-and-such photographer because they’re FABULOUS, and they wouldn’t DREAM of having anyone other than so-and-so design your bridal bouquet…well, they probably aren’t the right match for you. Just make sure that you guys connect on a personality level as well as monetary one; when stuff hits the fan, they’re the one that you’re going to go to first to save the day, and if you’re not comfortable with who they are as a person, you’re not going to want to turn to them when you actually need them.

So how does a wedding planner benefit those that aren’t on a super-tight budget, but don’t have a ton of money to spend? One of the best things they can help you with is to find vendors and décor to keep you in your budget, and in theory he or she will save you enough money to cover their fees. Think of it this way; if you’ve budgeting $20,000 for your wedding, your planner should be able to save cut enough corners and find enough deals to save you $1,000-$1,500, which is about what the fee can be.

Regardless of your budget, wedding planners can help you in so many ways!

• Vendors are more likely to get referrals for new business from wedding planners than brides, so their incentive to do a fantastic job at your wedding is increased when there’s a wedding planner preset.
• They ensure that your family, bridal party and friends have a good time. Sure, these people love you and would do anything to help you out. But after a long day of dancing, drinking and celebrating, sticking around until midnight gathering up table numbers and pulling linens off of the table is probably not their ideal way to end the night. These people are, after all, your most important guests; make sure you take care of them and let them have as much fun as they can!
• They can help you with the wedding day timeline. Oftentimes vendors are happy to help with this, but remember this isn’t what they do professionally. A DJ may do a great job of helping time out the reception, and photographers can do a pretty good job of helping your orchestrate the day, but neither of them will be able to help with the timing of the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, nor will they be able to assist you in having your hair and makeup artist arrive at the hotel at the right time.
• Something will ALWAYS go wrong at your wedding! It could be as simple as a broken strap on a bridesmaid’s dress, or as overwhelming as a vendor that no-shows. Having a planner there means that you don’t have to deal with these problems when they arise; and if your planner is really good, chances are you won’t ever know that anything went wrong!

All in all, a wedding planner is something every couple needs for their wedding, and it really is something to factor in to your budget from day one. Trust us, it’ll be one of the best decisions you make about your wedding, aside from choosing the groom!

 

Check out the average cost of a wedding in these two charts by the knot.

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5. Big Wedding Money Saving Tips:


1. Smaller guest list. ( If you can’t go small opt for a venue where the ceremony and reception are in one spot — it will cut travel time for vendors you pay by the hour.)

2. Buy flowers that are in season. (This will cut down on shippment cost and allow for a shorter delivery time.)

3. Serve more common foods like barbecue chicken, mac and cheese, and potato salad. It’s fun and often cheaper.

4. Reuse ceremony flowers/decorations during the reception.
5. That time of year. (Think off-peak season, days other then Saturday, and time of day, like a Sunday morring brunch.)